Someone once told me, that courageous people don’t worry about things that are out of their control or things that are unlikely to happen. They concentrate on what they can control.
Well, I don’t know about you, but when I’m in FEAR I’m not thinking about things I can control because my emotions are out of control! I am in fear all the way to my tippy toes.
Now, I have had plenty of experiences of staying in fear! It’s not a fun place to be and can be quite unsettling.
As I have moved through fear I have begun to understand it on a more personal level.
I have learned there are five levels of fear which can bring up many different emotions.
1-There is fear of things we know about. Experiences we have been through.
2-There is fear for others. Such as family members and friends.
3-There is also fear of the unknown.
4-There is fear of things that appear to have no hope.
5- Last but not least, fear of losing one’s mind. Heading for a breakdown, nerves are stretched.
Now that I’ve completely helped you become fearful of the world and everything in it. Let’s break some things down.
Understanding Fear:
I do know when you push against something it gets bigger. So, if I’m pushing against say fear of social anxieties, I’m not going to want to go outside. I will want to stay in my house as long as I possibly can, not answer the phone, or doorbell. Heaven forbid, I have to talk to someone!
One thing that really helps me is knowing somewhere I do have inner strength. It is a conviction of courage through the light within me. When I am in fear it’s hard to find this place or feeling. I like to close my eyes and take two or three deep slow breaths, which helps me to collect my thoughts. At this point, there’s always going to be a choice to make.
If you can’t do it I understand and it’s OK, but the more you try getting to this place within you, the more you will succeed. It truly is one step at a time that gives you the "Strength" to be Courageous...
You "Can" have courage while you are in fear. You don’t have to wait to be out of fear to find the courage to make that one scary step. Just one step forward will put a big smile on your face and a sense of clarity within you. It’s like a breath of fresh air and a sense that life is a journey. It helps to lift your spirits and find your way through the dark.
"Courage and Fear, Ebb and Flow" within each other. There cannot be Courage without Fear.
Debra Rudd